For parents of children from birth to five
The words to say in the hard moment.
Short, research-informed scripts matched to your child's exact age, and to the way you were raised. For parents who want to do some of it differently, gently.
Free. No account. Takes about a minute to set up.
What's happening right now?
- I Just Lost My Cool / Yelled (Need to Repair)SOS
- Hitting, Biting, or Throwing Right NowSOS
- Public Meltdown / Refusing Car Seat or TransitionSOS
- My toddler hits when I say no
- Bedtime takes forever
- Meltdown when the screen goes off
- Everything is a power struggle
- They won't share
- Tears every time I leave
- My toddler bites
- Will I spoil my newborn?
How it works
- 01
Tell it your child's birthday
Guides follow your child week by week from birth to five, so what you read fits the stage you're actually in.
- 02
Say what you'd like to do differently
Yelling, silence, shame around feelings: pick what you grew up with and would rather not pass on, and what you want to keep.
- 03
Get one short card a day
About 45 seconds: what's going on for your child, words you can say, and a note for the part that's hard for you.
What you can count on
You can check every claim
Each guide links to the studies behind it, 47 in all. We keep what research supports apart from what is simply a matter of family style. See the sources.
It stays on your phone
There's no account. Your child's birthday and anything you tell the app about your own childhood are stored on your device and aren't sent to us.
No streaks, no guilt
Nobody gets this right every time. Coming back after a hard moment counts here, and the app will never scold you for a day you missed.
Why a dandelion?
Dandelions take root in hard ground, and their seeds travel a long way from where they started. Many of us are raising children without having been shown how we'd like to do it. You get to keep what was good, set down what wasn't, and carry something a little different forward.
How we write and check the guides