For parents of children from birth to five
Know what to say before the hard moment comes.
One short, research-informed guide a day, matched to your child's age and to the way you were raised. Each one comes back a few times, so the words are already yours on the day you need them.
Free. No account. Takes about a minute to set up.
Start with what's on your mind
- My toddler hits when I say no
- Bedtime takes forever
- Meltdown when the screen goes off
- Everything is a power struggle
- They won't share
- Tears every time I leave
- My toddler bites
- Will I spoil my newborn?
How it works
- 01
Tell it your child's birthday
Guides follow your child week by week from birth to five, so what you read fits the stage you're actually in.
- 02
Say what you'd like to do differently
Yelling, silence, shame around feelings: pick what you grew up with and would rather not pass on, and what you want to keep.
- 03
Read one short card a day, and see it again
About 45 seconds: what's going on for your child and words you can say. A few days later the card comes back and asks what you'd say, so the words are in your head when you need them.
What you can count on
You can check every claim
Each guide links to the studies behind it, 72 in all. We keep what research supports apart from what is simply a matter of family style. See the sources.
It stays on your phone
There's no account. Your child's birthday and anything you tell the app about your own childhood are stored on your device and aren't sent to us.
No streaks, no guilt
Nobody gets this right every time. Coming back after a hard moment counts here, and the app will never scold you for a day you missed.
Why a dandelion?
Dandelions take root in hard ground, and their seeds travel a long way from where they started. Many of us are raising children without having been shown how we'd like to do it. You get to keep what was good, set down what wasn't, and carry something a little different forward.
How we write and check the guides